If you’re anything like the people who come to me for relationship advice I bet you’d like to know the number one mistake that both men and women make when it comes to dating. Even better than that I bet you’d like to know the solution to that mistake. If that’s a piece of relationship advice that interests you then please read on.

I’ve been giving relationship advice through my coaching for enough years to spot the patterns in how people make something that’s fairly natural very complicated.

The number one mistake that men and women continually make is that they fail to communicate their interest in members of the opposite sex. It sometimes appears that the more my clients fancy someone the less likely they are to let them know. This leads to a situation where no one has any real idea of what is going on. So I want to teach you a couple of things that are going to make your life much more exciting and maybe even a little more erotic.

Baboons In Heat

According to Leil Lowndes, when a female baboon comes into heat she strolls over to a male she likes, bends over pressing her butt into his face, then grabs him by the hand and marches him off into the jungle to procreate. Now, that particular technique is not a piece of relationship advice I suggest you use but you might want to keep it in mind. There are some subtler, yet very clear, signals that you need to learn and remember that will allow you to let someone know you’re interested.

Women, you need to know that at least 2/3rds of every romantic encounter are initiated by you. The man may like to think of himself as a hunter but the truth is that he’s fairly cautious (downright terrified in most cases!) about getting rejected by a woman he likes. This might seem like a stupid game to you but please pay attention; I’ve had women go from zero offers of dates in over 3 months to two in one day. Once you know a guy is interested there are 3 top ways of getting the attention you deserve. The first is to smile broadly across the room to the guy. You might even have to do it two or three times but he will eventually approach you if he’s interested. See the tips below for more ideas.

So, you spot someone you are interested in, but how do you know if they’re interested in you? It’s easy.

Do Not Stare!

Men, if she’s interested she’s going to look at you. So when you walk into a room take your time and pay attention. People will generally check out a newcomer, if there’s someone you like or are attracted to then keep looking, subtle now, don’t stare. If she looks back in under a minute then she’s interested and at some point soon you should introduce yourself to her before you manage to convince yourself she wasn’t actually looking at you. Once you get to talking to her there are a number of things you need to be looking out for so you can know if she’s 1. Really not that interested 2. Would like to get to know you better or 3. Gagging for it. (Trust me, they’re out there!) Check out the tips below for more information.

Cow Poke Stance?

Women, it’s really very simple, if he has come over to talk to you I recommend you assume he’s interested. As far as he’s concerned he’s just traversed the fires of hell by approaching you so let’s hope he thinks you’re worth it. There are a couple of classic signals he could be giving off. Where are his hands? If he’s shifted into what’s referred to as ‘Cow Poke’ stance, hands-on-hips, fingers pointing to his groin then you know he’s trying to get your attention. It really is that blatant if you just start paying attention.

If you know what you are looking for people’s bodies give away their secrets all the time. It’s not rocket science, it’s not Jedi mind tricks it’s just knowing what to look for. Not only that, once you know what you’re looking for you can ramp up your own ability to put out the signals that speak directly to someone’s subconscious and get them gravitating in your direction. Now that’s relationship advice worth seeking!

If you’d like to know more about dating and flirting we’ve got a couple of great books here. I’ve spent years wading through lots of different theories and approaches so you don’t need to. Any book I put my name to is a distillation of the things that work. I value my time and yours highly, if it’s in print with my name on it, it’s because it works. Want to learn ‘How To Approach Anyone And Enjoy It?

Bonus Tips

Another great way to communicate interest, in a guy, is to look him in the eyes and run your fingers through your hair. It’s called autoerotic touching and it works really, really well.

Guys, if you’re talking to a woman and she starts running her fingers through her hair or stroking her arms or thighs you can assume she’s interested. The message her body is giving out is this. 1. She’d like you to notice what she’s touching 2. She may well be inviting you to touch her there sometime in the future.

Pay attention to what people are pointing to as they talk to you, where do their feet point, where are their fingers pointing? If they were naked what would their body be saying to you? A lot of seduction and attraction is deeply subconscious, if you can get even a little more conscious about it you’ll have people approaching you and they won’t even know how you did it.

If he or she touches you in any way then you can assume interest. A great trick is to stop the conversation, touch their arm and say ‘I’m sorry, but in the excitement of meeting you I managed to miss your name.’ Two things happen here, one you’ve communicated excitement, and secondly, you’ve touched them which moves your relationship forward a notch.

Establishing interest is the easy bit, you must then know how to move a person from being interested in you to be wildly excited about knowing more about you. If you’d like to know more I talk about this a lot in my coaching with people looking for relationship advice.

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Starting with the best first…

The Top 3 Places to Meet Singles

• Meet Singles Online
• Speed dating
• Singles events

And the rest…

• Dating agencies/Matchmakers
• Daily life
• Night life (clubs & pubs) (Yes, really! Last on the list)

Why are they in that order?

There are 4 things you need to make finding partners easy:

• • That the singles you meet are available
  • There are lots of them
  • It’s easy to meet them in a short timescale (you are busy after all)
  • You don’t have to try too hard to talk to potential partners

So the answer to why the top three are the top three lies in those factors.

Do You Really Need to Go There?

If you’re having a sort of, ‘Yeeeuch’ reaction to some of the top options then I can understand it. But the best places aren’t necessarily the easiest to persuade yourself to go to.

The fact is internet dating, speed dating, and singles events are filled with millions of single people, just like you, looking for dates.

5 years ago, you were probably right. They shared the same stigma joining a dating agency used to have. But today … millions can’t be wrong!

If you’re not in, you’re missing out.

Want to know great local places to meet singles? If you’re in Toronto, Calgary or Ottawa see our city-specific recommendations!

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The Skill To Successful Dating

You probably know that dating is a numbers game
If you want to find your Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie then you need to be getting more dates. And if your conversation isn’t up to it, you’re missing out on lots of opportunities.

Wouldn’t you rather be turning dates away because you don’t have time to fit them in?

Instead, you probably feel like you’re doing yourself a disservice by not revealing the true you when you’re out trying to get dates?

If the people you met got to know the real you the first time, then how many more potential partners would want to date you? You owe it to yourself to find a way to do this now.

So STOP, suspend your doubting thoughts for a few moments, and;

Picture yourself a few weeks from now, sitting down at your next speed dating event, or walking over to that gorgeous hunk or glamorous woman at your favourite bar and getting the date you want …

How fantastic would it be to truly enjoy a fun dating conversation?
What if you were supremely confident because you kicked off with any one of your 5 sure-fire conversation starters?
How would it feel to be able to pluck intriguing topics from your new repertoire?
How would it feel to make your partner desire you in such a way that they’re almost guaranteed to want to see you again?
How ecstatic would you be to transform your first conversation into a date?

If you said yes, then click here to watch this free video you absolutely need to see. Trust me, you’ll thank me later.

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Dating Tips for You

Like it or not, you live in a society that is largely fixated on sex. I’m guessing this isn’t news to you, you’re bombarded with semi-erotic images all day long. Yes, it can be distracting but the good news is that it’s not just the sexual act that people are fixated upon but the promise of sex. Just watch some adverts, they’re clearly not offering you great sex but the suggestion is there. Particularly the ads marketing to the age group of most of the dating advice clients I work with.

Warning: Contention alert.

This is going to be contentious and if it bothers you then please just bear with me. I hate to say this but it seems to me that quite a few of the women that end up taking my courses or working privately with me aren’t exactly relaxed around being sexual beings or even talking about it. It’s almost as if being out of a relationship means that their bodies become off-limits. This can actually be quite literal, one of my female clients, Julie, ( name changed) was so crushed by the loss of a relationship that she slept fully clothed as the feeling of being naked and alone was unbearable. She really just didn’t want to know about her body as it just reminded her of how alone she felt.

Guide-To-FlirtingI believe we all need to take time to get over a significant relationship but women tend to wait too long before getting back into dating. The standard guide is that we need about a month to get over a person for each year we were together. If it’s taking longer than that then it may be wise to get some assistance. Julie had been in this phase for 18 months and even she knew she had to change.

Time To Give Out The Glow

Peta Heskell in ‘Flirt Coach’ talks about ‘Giving out the glow.’ She’s the only person I’ve seen dare to say in print that there’s a certain energy that comes off a sexually active person that people find attractive. Sometimes if you’ve been single a while it’s as if the sexual pilot light goes out and you just get busy with just getting on with life. Having spoken with clients about this for years I know that this is a real phenomenon. Julie had been working with me for a couple of months and getting nowhere fast on the dating front.

She couldn’t understand why she was getting no interest from men or being asked out, and frankly having seen her photo neither could I. When we talked about sex, however, it turned out that she hadn’t had sex with a partner for over 18 months and felt sad and a bit guilty about masturbation so she wasn’t doing that either. She had managed to turn into someone who came across as totally A-sexual. Which most men interpret as either not interested or just not interesting. What it appears to boil down to is that if you’re going to live like a nun people will treat you like one. No offense intended to my nun readers but don’t be holding your breath waiting for a guy to make a move.

Turning The Light Back On

Through internet dating, Julie met a man who she fancied but clearly wasn’t husband material. He expressed an interest in having sex, something along the lines of ‘ I doesn’t really see a future for us but I’ve got some very exciting fantasies about you.’ Given her desire to reawaken her sexual spark she decided to go with it. The week after, having changed nothing else, she was getting more male attention than she’d had in the last six months.

Having taught Yoga for so many years in the past. I see things most people miss. Women who used to walk into class looking a little shut down or grey, one day, generally after a couple of months, there is a significant change; they brighten up, stand differently and suddenly the men in the room are finding them a lot more distracting. Sometimes it’s because they’ve just got a boyfriend and their feel-good hormones are raging and sometimes it’s just because they’ve reconnected with their bodies. As Peta says ‘ We are all sexual beings’. Sometimes it just needs to be re-awakened. If you want some concrete ideas then check out my dating advice tips below.

Trauma And Abuse

So what am I saying? I hear you ask. If you feel you need to, then it’s time to reawaken your sexual energy. Fortunately, intercourse isn’t the only way to reawaken your sexuality, you have lots of great options. I’m sure you can use your imagination to think up some alternatives. Dreaming up new ways has got to be better than the work that I’ve interrupted you from ;-). If the whole idea is distasteful for you then you’re going to need help, it’s not my intention to burn any bridges here but let me just say some of you are not single by accident whether you know it or not. You may have some trauma or abuse incident in your past that’s really holding you back and I’d be happy to help.

So what I’m talking about here is just one area of dating advice on what I refer to as the dating wheel, it’s one element of your market value. If you’re struggling with being single or know someone else that is I’m hoping this has been helpful. If it’s not your issue take a look at my website and see if you can figure out what is. Enjoy your homework! Don’t worry, no one else needs to know, I can keep a secret.

Top Dating Tips

Decide to get physical. It’s important to get back into your body in such a way you become excited about it. Ideally, it would become something you view as such a great treasure that any bloke who gets to share it, with you, is truly blessed. It may be that you start Yoga, Salsa, Ceroc (the ultimate choice for those of us with two left feet), or maybe even a belly dancing class. Although given you’re out there looking for a partner I suggest you go for partnered type dance classes because if nothing else you’re going to get at least a little physical contact you like. Just having your hand held can be very good for your spirit.

Start to play around sexually. Some of my clients are very shy around the subject of sex and have lost partners on the basis of not being adventurous enough. One of my jobs is to free them up a little, please keep in mind I only work on the phone so there’s nothing ‘nasty’ going on! I believe there’s a whole language around sex and seduction, either you can speak it or you can’t. As a woman, it ups your market value hugely with most men if you can. Pick up one of the more tasteful erotic novels and see if there’s anything you can learn from it. Aim for the stuff written by women for women, at least in the beginning. You would do well to learn the linguistical loveliness of luscious language.

If you can become his favorite fantasy without feeling like you’re lowering yourself then you’ll be married in weeks. There are ways of having conversations with a man, particularly if you are really, really interested that guarantee you his full attention. Learn this and you’ll be kicking butt and taking names.

For the men who managed to read this far let me just say that approached correctly women are eager to have you relight their sexual pilot light.

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3. Pick A Team

There are a lot of sports that have cemented a place in Canada's hearts. While hockey is most certainly the country's number one obsession, basketball, baseball, and even soccer has become popular in it. Try to get to know some of the local teams and choose one.

8. Dating In A Melting Pot

Canadians are well known for having their own customs. However, they are also well known for being very open and willing to embrace all kinds of new cultures and people from different walks of life. You will find people from all over the world living in Canada and while you are in the dating scene. 

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In this post, I will reveal the top 11 female body language secrets that you need to know for interpreting female body language.

Here’s the deal:

Secrets of female body language aren’t really easy to comprehend.

For a smooth relationship with your significant other, it is important for you to look past what her words say.

Instead, you need to focus on her body language and look for cues what she really is trying to tell you. Because:

The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said

With the help of these 11 female body language secrets, you will easily know whether she is sad, happy, down or pissed about something or need comfort.

11 Hidden Female Body Language Secrets

1. When She “Accidentally” Touches You

Women have a hard time making the first move. Most of them want men to take the first move.

But there are some obvious ways through which they tell you they are into you.

Note – Whenever she comes sits close to you, find reasons to touch you, brushes herself against you that means she is aroused and wants to have some sensual-time.

All of these things tell that there is something in you that she likes.

You can call it flirting too. If it looks like it then it definitely is.

Her accidental touches are enough to tell you that you are the one.

This gesture is also considered as the female body language of flirting.

Always listen to her body language even if she is saying she isn’t looking for someone, her body language clues that say she’s interested.

However, when she says “No” it definitely means “No”. Respect her decisions.

2. When She Bites Her Lips

One important gesture that is enough to turn someone on is lip-biting. This is also one of the signs that a female likes you.

This innocent gesture is so sexy that no man can resist it. If you want to attract someone, many people would suggest you this move.

Lip-biting is a sure way of making your lips look more attractive.

Flirting is summarized as a body-language.

Obviously, you can use words and may drop a pickup line but the main part is played by your body.

Here are the three main reasons why lip-biting is so erotic:

It shows a desire – Lips are an important part of your body i.e., you eat and kiss with your mouth. Whenever it’s about suppressing a desire, your lips know it all.

Lips become the center of attention – Face is surely the first thing that you notice about someone first. Lip-biting just makes it possible by drawing attention towards the lips. This will intrigue the person you like.

It makes them look hotter – Rosy red lips are everyone’s favorite. When you bite your lips, it brings blood to the surface making your lips red and supple. This immediately makes you more attractive.

3. When She Shakes Her Hips

When a woman shakes her hips while walking, this means she is trying to get the attention of some guy.

This is a thing women do when trying to captivate men’s attention.

It may be either consciously or completely unconsciously. It all depends on the women.

The next time you see her shaking her hips, you can be sure that this is meant to attract you and to let you know that she is interested in you.

4. When She Waves Her Hands

When she is about to say that is something very important for you or something that is important to her, she will wave her hands in the air in excitement.

This is more like a “look at me” gesture in a subconscious way.

When she does this, she wants you to pay attention to whatever she is saying.

Hence, whenever you see a woman doing this waving hands in the air gesture, pay attention to her. It would be something you need to know about.

5. When She Looks Squarely In The Eyes

If you want to know what a woman saying is genuine and real, then you have to look for this sign.

When she looks squarely in the eyes, everything that comes out of her mouth is true. Also, she won’t look away either.

This way you can easily tell that whatever she is saying is important and want you to have a good listen to it.

Sometimes, she will be seeking an answer too. So be prepared for it and listen to her carefully.

6. When She Speaks at a High-Pitch

This is one of the easiest ways to tell that a woman doesn’t actually mean what she is saying.

If she tells you that she is okay and there is nothing to worry about, her high tone would clearly mean that she is going through some anxiety.

Here are the things you should look for when women are going through some problems:

She speaks loudly

Her heart-rate rises

She appears more agitated

If you notice these signs, it clearly indicates that there is caution.

Remember: Do not try to push her buttons and try being distant for a moment. Find the cause what she is upset about, find a solution and comfort her till she feels better.

7. When She Doesn’t Make Eye-Contact

Whenever she refuses to make eye-contact with you, it means two things:

Either she is so mad at you that she does not even want to look in your eyes.

Or

She is hiding something from you.

In the first scenario, there is no option for you other than simply apologizing for whatever reason she is feeling that way. Even if it is not your fault or you have no clue what you have done wrong.

Not apologizing and keeping her mad for a long time will only make things worse. Hence it’s better to say sorry to her.

However in the second case, not making eye contact means she is hiding something from you and does not want to be open herself about it.

Of course, eyes are the windows to the soul and she is trying to lock you out. This clearly means there is something that she is keeping secret from you.

Here are some other ways you can tell if someone is lying to you:

Too many details – When someone provides you so many unnecessary details

Body-language and words don’t match – It’s very difficult to be composed when telling a lie.

Verbal pauses – Because a lie involves a lot of thinking

Paralanguage – The way how someone says it.

Putting an object between you two – It’s a subconscious behavior to protect themselves

8. When She Walks Loudly

This one is obvious. If you hear walking her loudly this means there is something you did to piss her off. There might be a fire in her eyes that will erase any doubts you might have.

There are a few things that can happen too:

• Loud walking on stairs
• Doors and cabinets slamming
• Pans being strewn together

Remember – There is no escaping from the reality, she will not get better herself. You should make an effort, try to get things sort out. Remember what you could have done wrong or said that she might not have liked.

Even if you do not recall anything like that, you should apologize to her.

Because whatever is wrong, it is going to befall on you. Prepare an “I’m sorry sweetheart” note and keep it in your pocket before facing her.

9. When She Hugs Herself

If you think when she hugs herself around the waist or the shoulder indicates a sexual thing, you are WRONG.

Hugging herself around the waist means she self-soothes. There is something that made her upset.

Whether it is something you did to make her feel hurt or some other thing, she is trying to soothe herself from the hurt through this gesture.

A Quick-Tip – Whenever you see her hugging herself, get close to her, hug her, comfort her, and possibly bring ice-cream.

This will surely cheer her up and she is more likely to tell you what made her feel that way.

10. When She Cross Her Arms In Front Of Her

When she does this it means two things, either she is not accepting what you are trying to explain her or either she means she is not going to give in.

This happens a lot when two people argue. Arm crosses mean they are not open to listening to your further explanation and they are not buying what you are saying.

This probably tells you to shut up and rethink what you have done.

You should know – The best way to deal with this is, is to give her some time. Let her anger cool down.

This will also give you some time to rephrase your words in such a way that she would accept it. And then go and try to talk to her about the whole situation.

11. When She Clench Her Lips

It’s human nature, whenever something is going in our head, our bodies will subconsciously act accordingly.

Whenever a woman clench her lips, and her jaw tightens, this means she is withholding saying what is in her mind. Or there is something you have said that is making her upset.

This gesture usually comes with a scary frown.

This is enough for you to stop saying anything because obviously she is finding it unpleasing.

So, stopping right away and letting her speak is the correct thing to do in this situation.

The bottom-line?

Each gender has a different body-language and female body language secrets are different than that are of men.

If you feel your girl isn’t being genuine to you, you are most probably right. Women are usually not good at hiding their feelings for a long time especially when they are angry or upset.

Listen carefully to what she is trying to tell you and pay close attention to her body language. Hopefully, these 11 female body language secrets will help you a lot in understanding her.

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